"But not all men are out to rape and abuse women."
Ok, but imagine you have a glass of water, pure and refreshing to drink, right?
Then imagine someone comes along and drops half a teaspoon full of sewage water into that glass. That whole glass is now essentially sewage water, only a very few…
There’s yet another racism storm kicking off in the NBA at the moment and it got me thinking about stereotyping and whether all stereotyping should be classed as discrimination, and I found myself thinking about this post.
How can this not be considered sexist? If someone wrote an identical piece but substituted the words ‘men’ and ‘rapist’ for ‘Muslim’ and ‘terrorist’ it would be deplorable, yet somehow it’s acceptable to say it about men?
"Of course only a small number of Muslims are terrorists, but it still creates an atmosphere of fear amongst non-Muslims, especially when those ideas and attitudes filter down to other Muslims"
It’s not so much the ‘sexism’ of it that irritates me but the hypocrisy that it comes from those who claim to crusade for equality.
(This isn’t directed at you Sleath, it’s just the most memorable such post I remember seeing recently on the subject)
Sexual abuse is something 1 in 5 women face. 1 in 5 Muslims are not terrorists, they’re an extremely small minority (although admittedly well publicised). Just one Google throws out stats like:
- Approximately 85,000 women are raped on average in England and Wales every year
- Over 400,000 women are sexually assaulted each year
- 1 in 5 women (aged 16 - 59) has experienced some form of sexual violence since the age of 16.
I don’t think you can equate the two, you can’t just throw different types of discrimination together. Sexism is not the same as racism is not the same as homophobia is not the same as ableism.
I don’t see why you have to fight so hard against feminism, it’s quite frankly tiring. How is feminism hurting you as a white dude? Why does it get your back up so much for women to be pushing to be respected, to be taken more seriously, to be political and social equals? Sexism exists and Tumblr is a space where lots of women are learning to stand up for themselves and take notice of these issues. We get it - you don’t get it. That’s great, you don’t have to live with it.
It’s funny how the people complaining about this post saying “it wouldn’t be acceptable if you said this about people of a different ethnic background” are all white guys.
I’m not saying it’s necessarily the right way for some women to feel towards men, but explaining that some women do for that reason. Nowhere in this posts did I ever say anyone SHOULD feel this way towards all men, but that they do and for this reason.
If a woman has been raped or abused she’s entitled to feel nervous around men she doesn’t know, if she was raped or abused by a woman she’s entitled to feel nervous around women she doesn’t know too.
But this amount of hostility towards people WHO ARE MAKING THE POINT THAT NOT ALL MEN ARE THE PROBLEM is a bit unnecessary. Figures for rape and abuse are ridiculously high and I’m sorry that as a man this may make you intimidating to a woman who’s been abused or raped by another man even though you yourself have never abused or raped a woman but let’s not sit there and tell a victim she’s “wrong not to trust men because one of them forced himself on her one time”
We all get given stereotypes we don’t necessarily deserve sometimes but sometimes we just have to think to ourselves “I, myself, know I do not deserve this hostility but clearly this person has reason to think this, however as I’m sure in myself that this does not include me, I’m not going to invalidate their feelings just because I need everyone to know they don’t include me personally”
I don’t have an issue with anyone feeling any way about any person for any reason, my argument is against the implied hypocrisy. If a guy gets mugged by a black guy does it make it acceptable to be nervous around black people? And if not, how does that differ from a female rape victim being nervous around men?
How far does that extend though? Your argument stem from the mind of a victim having the issue with men, but it seems that the whole debate was about how all women are justified about being nervous about all men. That’s still not anything I have a fundamental disagreement with, it’s hardly an irrational fear when some studies found between 4%-6% of men admit to rape, but that kind of gender profiling is no different to racial or religious profiling. They are absolutely comparable because it’s grouping an entire demographic based on the actions of a minority of that group.
I’d suggest a significant number of New Yorkers either had a friend or family member directly involved with 9/11 considering nearly 3,000 people died and 6,000 were injured, does that justify a mistrust of Muslims in New York? If it’s simply a numbers game (clearly there are more male rapists than Muslim terrorists), how many of a certain group need to commit a crime before it becomes acceptable to be wary of all members of that group?